advice from coco and ice t

america's favorite couple lays it out for us.

coco: all our fears boil down to one simple thing: our fear that we're not special. we're afraid that we're replaceable, one of a crowd, that there's nothing unique about us. and we're afraid, as a result, that we won't be able to meet whatever challenges life presents us with.

ice t: so we hide. we're afraid that if we let our real selves, our real beliefs, our likes and dislikes, our thoughts, hopes and dreams, show, we'll be rejected for them, and that we can't bear. it's too much exposure. it's easier to go with what the culture tells us we should like and do and think.

coco: as i said, most of us lead lives that are predominantly motivated by fear. we'd rather rely on pundits to tell us what to think, on style mavens to tell us how to decorate our homes, and on advertisements to tell us what to wear. we'd rather surround ourselves with what's cool than with those things that address our individual needs.

ice t: all the conveniences of modern technology aid us in communicating – the cell phone, video camera, Internet – but they can also sometimes stop us from communicating. take a night a week with your kids when the computer games & tv are turned off. the hero is not the man who conquers the world, but who conquers his own passions.